Karma

Last weekend I had a very interesting conversation with YGS's maternal grandmother. Listening to her describe her daughter's living conditions, I couldn't help but giggle. Rude, I know.... but

This is  woman from a wealthy family who has traveled to Scotland for family visits; whose parents were going to buy her a house !; who were going to sign their restaurant over to her to bring in extra income; who is, by her mother''s own words, haughty and snotty.

Her living conditions were described as so bad one wouldn't want a dog living there ! Black mold, weeks worth of dishes, garbage thrown out the door - not even in bags ! Abandoned cars in the frontyard. No car, no phone, a job cleaning hotel rooms when they need her, maybe one or two days a week. A far cry from her $54 000/yr job .

There is no ' bond' between her and her daughter.The father has a court order that he has full custody and she is not allowed to be taken out of the little town. Supposedly this has all been done through the courts says the other grandmother, but who knows ?

All those lies, all that stealing  and she has  boyfriend that ' isn't very swift'  and that her mother hopes figures out what S is all about before too long. And what of that poor little girl- men and women in and out of her life. It's criminal.

However, YGS's other grandparents have been talking to him about his half sister without asking permission of my son.  I know they want to bring her out this summer and want the two of them to  meet, but that is all up to my son and he says no. He's the one who will have to deal with the repercussions. So they will be told. And if they continue or try to tell YGS that it is a secret, then contact will be cut off. YGS is stable and secure with the life he has. I fully understand why ES doesn't  want anything  to upset the progress he has made. "They' have said how both ES and YGS are like two different people so why do they want to mess it up ?

Guess the apple doesn't fall  far from the tree.l