Two Years

  Two years ago a mother dropped off a toothbrush, and some medication..........and walked out of her child's life.

After 32 days of no contact , my son had his son for 5 hours. I will never forget how hard it w as for him to 'give' him back to his mother. The next day [ apparently after a horrible night with the child screaming out for his daddy], she asked if my son would like him for the day,  then it became for a sleepover. Of c ourse he said yes ! She sent him with 4 changes of clothing, some old toys  and left........


Fast forward two years. He is doing exceptionally well in school. The teacher is amazed  at how quickly he is picking up a second language[ Having worked in FI for 26 years I am amazed ! His understanding, use of words and his accent is quite unbelievable.]He is kind, loving and helpful ! Wow ! What qualities !  Mme Day is accelerating his learning as she fears he might become bored------as he already knows what she is teaching.

So now we have a child who is secure. There are no longer any tantrums. There is no loger a problem with constipation as he is fed a good , balanced diet. No longer do we have a 'grumpy' child for no reason who chose NOT to talk to people and at times was rude. We have a boy who comes into any situation with a smile on his face, who talks to everybody and adores each and every member of his family. He gets to spend time with his cousins, has sleepovers even with his maternal grandparents.

My ED has had a huge impact on his life. She opened her home to her brother and nephew. He has a loving home which is secure. She has disciplined, played, taught and listened to him even though her life is filled to bursting with work and completing her Master's Degree. He, along with his Dad, have learned a great deal abouat gardening  from my daughter. He'll eat anything that they have grown. She takes time out of her studies to talk about school and teach him what he wants to learn - like making the letter Z.

Our home is his second home. We pick him up after school . Once home he'll eat - and he eats a lot ! - play , talk about school. Yesterday we spent an hour and a half writing words as he so desperately wants to read. And then off he goes home when it is time with his dad. However he usually tries to wrangle having supper here------ and sometimes it works !

So today we will celebrate two years of a new life for the boy. If all this turmoil, lawyers, court judgements hadn't happened, he would have been an unhappy, tantrum throwing  brat. All that, and more if his mother had managed to take him. We have still not ever said a bad word about his mother although he knows " She took him to Superstore, my dad's car was in the parking lot. She gave me to him and then she left. I haven't seen her again ! "  But now I am happy and I love my Dad so much ! this was said to his maternal grandmother.

November 25 2013   A New Life