Today is my eldest son's birthday. We did not celebrate his birthday last year as he was fighting to see his son; all he wanted for his birthday was hugs and kisses and it didn't happen. It was so sad; it b roke my heart. But fight he did and now this year......
We'll be having a birthday supper turkey with all the trimmings and cake. [ I just have to decide what kind of icing to put on it ! ] We'll sing Happy Birthday and know that it is true My son and grandson are thriving physically and emotionally. Kudos to my ED who has been there for both of them. She has been a better mother to L than his own biological mother. He still talks about 'his' garden, naming all the veggies and fruits that were harvested; how they grow from seed and then give you apples, and tomatoes etc. He was out in the cold helping to put down the last layer of leaves rake from our yard to cover the beds in 'his' garden.
Halloween was a magical time for him and he loved it. His dad has a herniated disc so Uncle took him around the neighbourhood. Being such a talkative likeable little guy, the neighbours had 'extra' treats for him. However the candy was not the main'draw' for him, he loved the decorations andn had to stop and admire all of them. To top; it all off, he got to have a sleepover with us - so Dad could sleep as long as he could to rest his back.
He has visits with his maternal grandparents. These visits affect his behaviour for about 3 days. We know that they feed him too many sweets and feel that they may let him get away with certain behaviours ' as long as he is happy'. The boundaries are not there as they are with our family. The maternal grandmother did pay a visit in Kapuskasing to see her granddaughter that she has only seen once before. The arrangements were madae with the other grandmother; she did not tell her daughter that she would be in town.The girl is 7 years old and her life has been turned upside down again. Her parents are not together, her dad has a new girlfriend and her mother is living in a basement suite with another single mother with 2 or 3 kids. Thank goodness Jim got custody ! The mother no longer has a car, or phone or a home. When told her father has prostrate cancer and a bowel tumour she said, " oh he'll be fine ! " It has been 356 days since she has seen or talked to her son. She has been disowned and disinherited, but seems . according to her mother, quite content.
WE had new weeping tile and a sump pump put in in September. We are waiting until after a few good storms to make sure the basement stays dry before we redo it. I managed to paint the window frames but never managed to get the deck painted . Next year !
Lots of knitting done for other people and halfway done the handquilting on Es's quilt. Christmas cakes are made. YS helped with the stirring ! and he broke a wooden spoon doing it ! Today we'll pull names for Christmas and decide on a theme - or not.
School is going well for me. I am enjoying my new assignment. Now if only I can find the time to blog regularly !! Someday !
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